One last item. W's friend/neighbor who is going thru a D also, came by the house while I was there to see W and for her S5 to see our D6. Interesting interaction. Friend asked me when I was going to take my license plate frame off the rear of my vehicle which says Erica loves Tom and has our M date on it. I told her calmly, but matter of factly, I'll take that off when I take my wedding band off and I'm not taking that off til the fightin's done and we've won! She looked at me puzzled and I said don't worry, my W doesn't understand me either. I then joked, would it make everyone feel better if W and I just strapped on boxing gloves and duked it out in the court?She just looked at me, smiled and shook her head. She is the same woman who told me that she really believes that me and my W need to get back together.
I also told her that my license plate frame is the only sentimental thing my W has ever purchased for me. She mentioned something about me dating others and I told her the same thing I told my W. I have never doubted my ability to attract members of the opposite sex. I don't try because, as I told my W, I am a married man and I take that commitment seriously and dating would be wrong. (Yes, I got that from Frank, as well. All together now, TY Frank.) :-p
I further explained that I had been thru a divorce before and as soon as I took off my wedding band, women were coming out of the woodwork to express interest. Friend then said, well, you also keep some very pointed reminders that you are not available, pointed and my wedding band and my car license plate holder. I said, yes I do. She then said that she and her husband took off their wedding rings in December. I said nothing, but thought, how sad. Friend also said that she is very surprised that women don't approach me all the time despite the wedding band. I just shrugged, saying I don't put myself out there.
Her mother arrived and we all parted. I took my two chili beans to my place and we have had a great evening toghether. S is a little under the weather. =(
I am really interested to see how my interaction with my W goes over the next few days. I know I have to keep on keepin' on as though our Vernetta session never happened. I will. I am very encouraged, but I AM not doing the end zone dance, just yet. Lot of game to be played yet.It's still early in this sitch.
