Frank, Thank you for chiming in. My problem is that I consistently run my mouth to my own detriment. I keep focusing on what I want instead of focusing on improving me and GAL. My focus is so often misguided and flat out wrong.
Quote: I agree with StevieRay, you told her how you felt. That is allowable. She didn't want to hear it becasue, well, it's TRUE.
I failed in meeting my own criteria for judging whether I may or may not cover a topic with my wife. My criteria is: 1. Is it true? ABSO-freakin'-LUTELY 2. Is it kind? Absolute;y NOT. I was yelling ans spewing venom. I jusst pissed on another opportunity to show her kindness and grace. Not a nice job. 3. Is it necessary? Again, NO. My feelings are MY feelings and I did NOT need to share MY feelings with W. She KNOWS how I feel and I possid on an opportunity to err on the side of grace with her; to be a bigger/better man.
My goal is to run that gamut of 3 questions and get YES answers to ALL 3 of them BEFORE I open my mouth. Clearly I have a LOOOONG way to go. I got 2 of 3 no's and still ran my mouth in this sitch. In terms of making a better me who is not only better, but humble, I have my work cut out for me, don't I?
Quote: This is just an event, it won't affect anything.
I hope you are right. BUT, I do belive what you and Amy have said, that she is WATCHING me. I'd like to believe that I am doing much more right than wrong, but then I trip over my d*ck and f*ck up my DB efforts. Uuuugggghhhh!
Quote: You need to cut her off when she talks about OM. You are not her friend.
THAT I will do, only much faster, going forward. I will cut her off and end the conversation. I will continue to work on fixing ME instead of my W and W.
