This morning I received a text msg from W telling me how she missed our children sooo much and asked if I would mnd her coming over to spend time with them. I told her that on Mondays I stayed at MIL's for dinner b/c MIl had both of our children and I have a standing invire for dinner and I was sure she'd be welcome. I had pangs in my stomach that THAT was the wrong thing to say. But, oh well, what's done is done. Can't undo it.
When I spoke with my good friend, he said that I should not have told her I was going to be at MIL's for dinner and left it at that. I told him that I don't want to be a jerk. I need to be able to look at myself in the mirror to shave.
My good friend also told me that perhaps W didn't miss our children so much as missed seeing me in a social situation, PLUS she would get to be with our children in my presence so she wouldn't need to be the primary caretaker because our children usually gravitate to me b/c I dote on them. I don't know about that, but I can always hope that God is doing work in her life and that He is helping her to be the woman He always intended for her to be. When my M rebuilds, is restored, and is reconciled it will truly be a testament to the glory and grace of God! Amen!
My other good friend called me early this morning to tell me that he KNOWS that my sitch is going to be over soon and that my W is going to ask for MY forgiveness for what SHE has done. He is truly convinced and has been my stalwart of belief and faith that God will work a miracle in my life and that I must stay the course and do MY part to facilitate the miracle. I have often told him that I wish my faith was as strong and unwavering for my sitch as his faith is for my sitch. I told him that I don't see what he sees any time soon, but I truly hope that his belief comes true. I told him, in the meantime, I will walk by FAITH, even when I cannot see!
Anyway, my MIL called me tonight to tell me tht SIL is tired of company and SIL needs a break. Uninvited to dinner. Actually a Godsend, b/c I was feeling really uneasy about telling W where I would be so she could get her fix of our children and continue on about her merry way.
So, I arrive at MIL's house to pick up our children and leave shortly thereafter. D6 chooses to go to McDonald's for dinner b/c they have an indoor playground and she is Ms. Personality Plus who always makes new friends, and does so again tonight. W had already gotten the msg about SIL. I talked with my good friend and he thought that the SIL story was BS; that W was bringing OM over for dinner. Turns out that wasn't the case. I guess my good friend was being protective of me, as usual.
W asked if she could come over to see the children b/c she missed them so much. I hesitated and she asked me if it was not OK; if I was having company over(translation- female company)? I told her, "That would be wrong." She said otherwise you wouldn't have told me I can't come over. I todl her that I never said that and didn't appreciate having words put in my mouth and repeated, "That having company over (wasn't talking about W) would be wrong." She said if that's what you believe. I said that IS what I believe. That's why I said it. I believe what I say and I say what I believe.
She then said I'll call you later when you are not in such bad mood. I told her that I wasn't in a bad mood and didn't appreciate her telling me that I am in one. I expected to hear from her, but never did. Guess she found something (or somone?) else to occupy her time tonight. <shrug> I like being assertive in standing up for myself. It suits me well.
W had already gotten the msg about SIL. I talked with my good friend and he thought that the SIL story was BS; that W was bringing OM over for dinner. Turns out that wasn't the case. I guess my good friend was being protective of me, as usual. 