Quote: Having trouble changing my basic nature of being a 'fixer.' I'm getting there, but it's taking me way too long. Ugh.
Then get there TODAY.
Quote: I let my curiosity get the better of me. BTW, I wasn't giving her advice. I asked about OM's GF. I am having trouble reconciling how W is so enamored with someone she just met who is already two-timing her. Doesn't bode well for their future together.
Who the F*ck cares! You ALREADY know she is choosing losers because THEY are the only kind of men that will choose a married woman.
Quote: My trouble lies in the fact that I am so gullible when it comes to her. If she is nice, all of my work goes out the window and I put too much creedence in ONE nice interaction.
Not any more. You're done with that starting today.
Quote: Unfortunately, I don't have control over who she decides to bring home and share her bed with. FYI, we haven't even file papers for a D yet, so nothing to tie her hands with with regard to bringing her adulterous behavior around our children. Perhaps THAT is the reason to file the papers alone?
I wonder if filing some kind of document that is not D papers is possible? Separation or other rules saying SHE can't bring men home?? Maybe Amy has an idea or your lawyer can think of something.
Quote: Often times I think that I am being more stupid than stong in my sitch. I must work on going silent and detaching. Unfortunately, she works in the same small office as me and types away on MySpace.com in our office and her GFs come in and she talks to them about her escapades within earshot of me. Grrrr.
Isn't MIL her boss? Most companies do not allow personal activities on the net while you're at work. And her 'talking' is incredibly RUDE. You would NOT be out of line if you were to walk over to her and tell her that you would appreciate it if she would not discuss her extra marital activities in your presence. Right in front of her friends.
And, if you are worried about MIL, ask her in advance if she would be offended if you were to do that. You are only demanding RESPECT. Nothing else. She is being an A$$HOLE.
