Quote: there is no excuse for not seeking counseling unless she is living on the banks of the river denial.
That is PRECISELY where MLCers set up camp!
Don't I know it. I am living it and I am holding on to God's ability to work miracles to help her to see the crisis she is in. I know that healing her and our issues is beyond my powers. She is in God's hands and I pray for her each and every day that He will guide her to be the woman that He always intended for her to be and I pray that no harm comes to her on her wayward journey.
Quote: Please understand, MLCers don't SEE much wrong with their behavior and God knows, when we're IN it, we do not see the level of dysfunction at which we operate.
Before we will attempt to justify ANYTHING to anyone else, you can best believe we've already convinced ourselves.
Yes, a sad state of affairs in my M and in my life. I will continue to love my W until God tells me that I should expend no further effort. Since I don't believe God will tell me that, I will love her until she opens her heart and mind to me again and calls me back to her as a changed woman.
Quote: She might see that she's on shaky ground. She may even know she's gone around the bend But you can take this one statement TO THE BANK:
She has no clue as to the depth of her issues.
I feel so sad for someone who is causing me so much pain and anguish because she is so lost and confused. I want to help her, but there doesn't seem to be anything I can do for her except to be her port during the storm; her rock. THAT I will do for her because I love her and believe that our M surviving is in all of our best interests and is God's will.
Quote: That's what makes this a "crisis", midlife or otherwise. Your family is in crisis.
I know, Amy. I am living this crisis each and every day. I watch my W helplessly while she makes poor decision after poor decision. W is THE role model for a woman for our children and is behaving so poorly that the only good our D would gain from consciously watching her mother's behavior is to decide that she WON'T follow in mommy's footsteps. My fear is that she decide TO follow in mommy's footsteps simply because W is mommy.
