Cobra in a healthy normal relationship the foundation you build on is love. You don't have that. Love is essential in any relationship. What really amazes me is how you still go to her expecting sex. You expect some sort of partnership and sex. You have also stated that you don't even have attraction to her. But yet you expect sex. You know I am going to throw something out there. You keep focusing on what past issues she may have had from way back when. How about the issues she may have from being with a man like you for as long as she has been with you? The only way she may see a sexual relationship is being with a man who just wants to get his rocks off. There is no attraction or love or anything intimate about it AT ALL. I am sure she deals with these issues all the time within her heart. She probably hates the way it feels. Maybe she even feels like a prostitute from time to time. The only thing she doesn't get afterwards is money. The one thing I can say about my marriage is there has never been a time when I have made love with my husband that he doesn't hold me tight and tell me he loves me. It is the best feeling in the world. There are times he may grab me in his arms and tell me I look yummy that day. These things matter big time to a woman. She doesn't have that with you and never has. Don't think for one minute that this doesn't bother her. This I am sure has created a whole lot of issues for her. She lashes out because she doesn't feel good about herself. You are harming this poor woman by insisting that she stay with you and work on things. If anything maybe let her go so she can experience love and true intimacy. You don't love her. You don't even have a physical attraction to her. This may be her biggest issue she deals with yet. It may hurt so bad she can't bring herself to mention it.
It is so painful whenever I read your posts that you are often asked what you do like about her? You can't say one thing.
I am beginning to think you may need a little help yourself. You have no right my friend to EXPECT sex with this woman!
