Personally, I think this approach for Cobra and his W is probably the way to go for a harmonious household....but like you said, not necessarily a happy one.
I also agree with you (and this does worry me for the kids) that the example the kids are seeing isn't a good one as far as fostering their emotional IQ. I guess I think about your situation Cobra...and I can't help but think of the parental/husband & wife role models I had in comparison to my H's role models. My parents were loving outwardly, so I learned how to express myself in a loving manner in a loving R. My H's parents were not outwardly expressive, even though they did/do love each other, therefore....my H never truly outwardly expressed his emotions towards me (until I made an issue of it and he began to learn how to do it.)
Cobra...I'm sure I don't need to repeat this, but kids NEED to see loving parents as role-models, that's how they learn what loving behavior is between spouses. Otherwise you run the risk of raising children into adults that aren't able to express loving feelings towards their spouse, because they haven't learned how. So, how do you plan to address that the way your M stands...especially if it at the best remains mutually respectful?
I'm honestly just curious how you plan to circumvent that.
