No, with this current counselor, a child and family counselor, we never got to the point of trying something like that. I think it is outside the realm of her experience too. We did attend a weekend session with the previous counselor and they did a little of this. It was awkward, and I think it would be the same today.
Whenever we have sex or try to be intimate, she seems to often default back to some issue as a way to throw up a barrier. I have to tell her to stop and just focus on what feels good right here right now. If she can reach orgasm, which always requires a body massager vibrator, then she can focus on the sex and the feelings. But until then, her thoughts keep pulling her in different directions. She tries too hard to O and the smallest thing can throw her off (a noise, her legs aren’t positioned just right, I am not fingering her just right, etc.)
I have been thinking we need a new counselor for this very reason. I would like to find a Schnarchian counselor in our area.
