I do cook most of the meals. (Last Saturday, when I spent the day in bed, W cook macaroni & cheese with hot dogs for dinner. S9 loves macaroni & cheese, but that is a typical meal or her lately. Often she does not cook vegetables, just opens a can of peaches or something. When I cook, I try to hold to the one protein, one carb, one or two veges rule.)
I have also helped her with a lot of her school work, scanning books to display on the overhead projector, copying movies and other material for class, laminating, cutting out laminations. Even the kids help out. But the need never seems to end.
I tried to suggest ways to organize her materials but that requires following whatever system we develop and it falls apart right there. (If she can’t put her keys and purse in one place each day so she can find them, how much hope is there for following anything more complicated?)
The problem I think is her OCD. She will always bite off more than she can chew. If we clean up the house and organize all her stuff, she sees an opportunity to take on new projects. Stuff starts to pile up again. She is very impatient and thinks she needs to do everything right now. She does not know how to pace out projects, or herself. She can imagine how she could do more for her class and then feels guilty if she does not do so. (She has done this exact thing with our kids.)
