I am simply ahast at this entire thread. I really encourage you to decide a few things and act accordingly.
Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?
Do you want to be married or divorced?
Do you to raise black belts or children who find their niche and really revel in their accomplishments?
Do you want to respect yourself for behaving well DESPITE difficult circumstances or simply have the temporary satisfaction of getting in a zinger or two?
Is your behavior moving you closer or further away from your long term goals for your relationships with your wife and children?
Cobra, you are in an unhealthy place right now. I can see it in your behavior with your wife, your responses to your posts, your supporting your children against your wife then insisting they comply with your agenda. I don't know if you can really hear the good people who have responded to you but I encourage you to step back, take a deep breath and try hard to listen.
If you choose to take the tack of the last poster I'm sure you can figure out where you will end up. If that is where you want to end up then go for it. Otherwise, look at what others are saying.
