I hope you take the time to really read these responses and think about them...let them soak in before you respond. There are some things from your posts that are literally SCREAMING out to those of us reading them....but you defend it.
I've brought this up to you before (without much success...and compared much of what you are doing to what my dad did with me and soccer)...I'm going to bring it up again. In your post you wrote ("Friday was another TKD belt test and since both D13 and S9 had missed the May test, I wanted them to catch up. S13 threw a hissy fit and declared she was not going to TKD anymore.")
This statement bothers me...now, if you had written that your D or S WANTED to take the test to catch up, that would have been different....but you didn't you wrote..."Friday was another TKD belt test and since both D13 and S9 had missed the May test, I wanted them to catch up."
Cobra, you had a child with a cold...and a child who simply didn't want to take the test. Your S, with a cold....wouldn't be feeling his best for a test (no matter how easy) even if he went to school all week, so he wouldn't do his best anyway. Your D well...if she doesn't want to do it, why are you forcing it? Is it for her REALLY? Or for you? You do realize YOU are not a failure if your children don't follow the same path you think they should right?
I realize some of the reactions on here almost come across as though you drug your sick son off of his death bed to go take this TKD test. I know that's not the case...he had a cold, with an ear ache. The thing that bothers me though Cobra, is his ear HAD been hurting...he didn't just suddenly get that horrible ear ache while you were out. He didn't tell you how badly it was hurting though until everything was over...and then he was crying, so it obviously hurt him quite bad.....yet he didn't tell you til it was over? Cobra, I'm going to say this as straight forward as I can....that boy endured pain in order not to disappoint you, rather than tell you it hurt. Why? Well...my guess is honestly from reading your responses to people on here...because #1 either you would tell him "it's an easy test, you can do it." or #2 he'd not want to risk disappointing you. Either way...he'd be taking that test for YOU, not for him. Is it really worth that?
