Quote: I am probably in the same boat as those women who say they do not feel anything for their husbands.
This I find VERY interesting. Okay so you feel nothing for your wife. Why is it that you EXPECT her to provide you with sex. There is no closeness or intimacy or even love for that matter. Sleeping in the same bed with someone is a very personal thing. In her not sleeping in the same bed with you maybe shjow she doesn't feel very much or very connected with you at all. She IS entitled to what feelings she has. If I was in this kind of relationship I would never cave in to my husband to have sex with him just because he felt entitlted to it because there is a ring on my finger. Sex is so much more. Stop expecting this of her is my advice.
Then you said....
Quote: Last night she did admit to doing this
To you of course it makes no difference. But to me sounds like she was the better and bigger person to admit she may have been wrong. GREAT improvement to Mrs. C
Then you said....
Quote: She said I just wanted to fight and tried to ignore me. I told her I did not like being ignored, that I was angry because I had legitimate gripes and she needed to listen and acknowledge them.
After you had just demeaned her right to your children. You then stand there like the tyrant telling her that she can't walk away. Demanding she listen to you. Ya know she may have had a hard day. She may have been tired after a long day at work. The first thing she comes home to is a man that has undermined her authority and demeaned her to her own children. Then is the tyrant coming after her telling her she needs to listen to him bitc* her out. It sounds to me like you don't hear your wife at all. You don't care feelings she has. She is ENTITLED to not want to fight with you if she wants. She also sounds like the bigger person who maybe didn't want to do that in front of the children.
Then you said....
Quote: I told her that this continual deflection causes me to have little trust in her, and she needed to let go of her past grievances. I then asked her what SHE was going to do to resolve this problem, that I was not going to pursue her to come up with a compromise. She could decide and take some responsibility.
Past grievances? OBVIOUSLY she is having a hard time letting it go because you are still the same abusive person. She was just called a F B. She was just put down to her children by their father. Your behavior is the same. So how can she let it go and trust you?
Then you said....
Quote: Surprisingly she agreed to clean up her mess.
Once again the bigger and better Mrs. C. She seen flaws and agreed to fix it. Sounds to me like someone IS WORKING on herself. But instead she only gets a nasty comment like surprisingly she agreed. You are negative!
