Here is the reason you or I or anyone else cannot help Cobra. Lil hit on it.
"The part of you that "feels good" or even feels justified in calling your W names."
At times, this is part of who Cobra is. There is nothing wrong with that, other than it being a differing opinion on how someone else might be in the same situation. Now we are judging and not accepting Cobra for who and what he IS.
When this no longer 'feels good,' to Cobra, and he recognizes that... he will be aware of his choices. Until then, he's just feeling attacked... he does not feel safe, he feels he has NO CHOICE and therefore... has no reason to BE anything else.
