I agree with Lil and Mojo, but wanted to focus on this:
Quote: I came into the kitchen and told S9 to be sure to speak loud, that other wise he will get blame for W’s lack of hearing.
Bad form, Cobra. That's not refusing to "lay low," that's forming an alliance with your child to help in the battle with your W. Stop it.
Cobra, I see some of my relationship's dynamics in your M. I know that one of the most important steps to take in improving the M is to end the mother/child dynamic. Yeah, she pissed you off by hanging up and by insulting your abilities as a father. It's okay to be upset with her, but don't use your anger as a rationalization of bad behavior. Get it under control (leave the room if you have to), and then come back to her and be calm and assertive.
Sounds easy, but I know it's a challenge. And yeah, I know it's easy for me to bop you for your behavior; much harder to change my own.
Keep being the best father and husband you can be, buddy.
