[MJontheMend]

I was feeling really bad about S9’s ear, and very anxious of the response I would get from W

This is the point at which you let your wife take on the role of mother. She was just continuing in the role you assigned her when she said she was withholding your sex priveledges. Your anxiety led to your defensiveness which led to your disrespectful behavior which led to your wife having to act like "Mommy". So the root of the problem is your anxiety. You felt like you were acting in the best interest of your child by encouraging him to complete the tournament. So what if you made a mistake by not recognizing that his ear infection was advanced? Here's how Alpha guy would have handled things IMO from the point of her hang up.

Alpha: (Calls again) Wife, I am asking again "Do we have any antibiotics?". Our son needs our care and attention so please answer my question.

W: You are bad father..blah,blah,blah.

Alpha: Once again I am asking you if we have any antibiotics. Our son needs our attention and this is not the time to concern ourself with other issues.

W: We have some antibiotics. (Hangs up)

At home:

W: I'll take care of boy since you are so incompetent.

Alpha (to son): Your mother will take care of you now. I am very proud that you were brave enough to complete the tournament even though you were in pain. However, I hope you know that it would have been okay to tell me that you really didn't feel well enough to continue competing.

Alpha exits.

The Alpha male doesn't have to concern himself with "making his wife happy" or "worrying that his wife will be angry" because the Alpha male concerns himself with "doing the right thing" which in this instance was caring for a child. The Alpha male freely admits when he has made a mistake because he knows that he had the right motivation. It's okay to f*ck up when you're trying to do the right thing as long as you don't give up on trying to do the right thing.