[MJontheMend]

I think all the guys on this BB who are concerned about coming across as more positively Alpha should read the book I had to read for my book group this month called "Redeeming Love" by Francine Rivers. It's a novel that falls in the category of Christian Romance. The hero of the novel is based on the biblical character of Hosea (who I had never heard of before reading this novel) who God compels to fall in love with the most LD type woman of all, an abused and hardened prostitute. He remains steadfast in his Alpha-ness in the face of destructive behavior from his wife way above and beyond that faced by any man on this BB.

I am not in any way shape or form a fundamentalist Christian but this book had a certain wisdom about the way relationships work. If you go through life looking for happiness from your relationships with other people then you are setting them in the place where you should be putting God (or something like God if you are not religious). If you go through life holding yourself invulnerable from relationships with other people then you are rejecting God altogether. If you want to be solidly Alpha, you need to think more about what it means to be a good man or a good husband and less about what would make your wife happy or what would make you happy.