Well up until this point we have kept the affair a secret to our families. I know that they will condemn her if they find out so even when we separate we are not going to tell them that reason...at least at first. I would like her to stay part of our lives and not have an adversarial relationship for our sons sake.

I think dating other women will be a big help...I am not ready yet...but sometime in the future. lol...I know I said in an earlier post i was out of the partying stage in my life...that is not 100% true...I can still hang with the best of them when the mood strikes. I know it will probably bother the wife to no end if I start seeing someone else...just not ready yet...in time I am sure I will be ready.

Thanks for your posts...it does help when you know people are reading about your sitution and providing input. It gives me hope that you were able to survive similar difficulties...congrats on your success.

"Friendship is like peeing your pants: everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth."