My Story - Looking for help and support

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I sound confident but part of me is still in a lot of pain...I do love my W dearly and hate to see it end in divorce. I just refuse to live with the affair...I don't know how you guys/gals live with it while it is going on...I do not have that strength. I refuse to accept it.

You've stood your ground wonderfully and I believe w/all my being that you are doing the right thing, I also couldnt stand such a travesty, knowint my S is still infatuated.
I also agree w/the above post, don't give up. The fantasy is bound to fade, once she realizes that Op isnt' the knight in shining armour, reality WILL set in inevitably, she'll see him for who he is. She'll seem exited at the prospects of a new place/job, but again, her fantasy world can only go so far.

I very much understand the hurt of knowing too much, I uncovered almost EVERY detail of my H's affair, and when I mean every detail I mean it. It's been 3mths since my discoveries, and just found out more stuff. So we can either go mad stewing over the details or fight tooth and nail to get that nasty stuff of us, to stand our ground w/ourselves and put huge STOP signs on our heads.

Being confident but in pain isnt' an oxymoron, of course you are going to hurt! take it one day at a time, dont' give in to D ideas yet, we all have our despair moments. Keep being a good dad for that little boy)))))))