My Story - Looking for help and support

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Ok read a lot this morning and got a lot of good advice from others situations. Feels like it has provided me some needed strength.

My current plan is to REALLY work on detaching. End relationship talk. Even though we are living in the same house we are separated...she blew past my ultimatum and thinks she has not made a decision...but the ultimatum was just that and by ignoring it the decision has been made. I need to accept that. If she does want to come back and recommit to the relationship before she moves out I will accept that but I am not going to beg for it and she must be willing to 100% give up what she is doing.

Start just focusing on me and my son. I am done playing games with her. I know I will be alright without her and she needs to see it for herself. I am not going to cave on the A...if that is what she wants she is out of the house on Nov 1st. I refuse to find that acceptable and will not live in the situation.

Now the hard part of no more ILY...no more affection...no more talking about the relationship...shutdown my IM. While it feels kind of wrong...I am not too stupid to realize the route of always talking...being available is not working...time to try something different and really stick to it this time. She needs to miss me and stop seeing me as the cause of all the problems. It is going to be hard...hopefully going to counseling on my own will help keep me strong.

Wish me luck...