I think you must do what we all must in our sitchs. If you plan to stay together you have to DETACH! Realize that this is a long, long journey and pack for the trip (bring lots of undies). If I recall this whole sitch has been pretty recent for you and I know in the beginning it feels like it is forever. Your feelings are so intense that they control you. You feel there is no possible way you can go on BUT you can. You will adjust to where this is at. You will GAL and learn that life goes on and that life isn't so darn bad. Yes, I understand where the ultimatum came from and why. Hell, there's a little part in me that's screaming "Go, baby, go!". That is not necessarily the good or smart part of me, though. Whether she stays or goes, it is not over unless you choose it to be. PLEASE give it some time, the pain lessens then comes back but lessens again. You can be the master here unless you call it quits. Hope I'm helping somehow.
