I am not so convinced that the MC is a bad idea for you as a couple. First, her being willing to go shows some connection to the R, whether her beliefs about ithe "problems" mesh with yours or not. What about getting the MC to talk about what you two can do to get closer. I know the OM is certainly a huge obstacle to be overcome but she's not saying it can't be done. She clearly told you that you can still be her "drug" of choice (as bad a comparison as that is) so why shut her out of MC? She's not saying what you want to hear but so what? It's early in the game. If she's blaming you, rather than arguing maybe just tell her how hard it must be for her to have those feelings towards you or something like that. Validate her feelings, you don't have to agree with them. But that is what she feels. As you said you can't convince her she's wrong. I think if she's going to trash your M she will do so whether you are in or out of MC. I would prefer to be using every resource possible here. But, just my humble opinion.
