Quote: I think the something she is seeing is that OM is NEW.
I wanted to be more clear about what I was saying. I am not saying there isn't times when the OM is simply the new thing but in that case, if that's all there is to it, then it's VERY likely that it will end sooner rather than later. I think we all hope that's all it is but than shouldn't stop us from looking at our marriage and figuring out what there is we could have done differently. I don't want to seem to be saying we are in any way in competition with OM, or need to look to him as some kind or role model but I DO think that there IS something to be learned from most every aspect of these sitches, things that we can use to either gain more compassion for our spouses situation or less. Just calling him the "new" thing or the a$$hole, or our wives "crazy" doesn't really address any issues. That's all I was trying to point out.
Maybe there is nothing that could have been done, nothing to learn from the A, nothing but evil, bad feelings and rotten relationship but then again, if that's the case then there's not much to fight for, is there?
