Sorry this has happened to you. But you've come to the right place. I can certainly understand your anxiety re the OM. Why does your W want to maintain contact? After putting you through hell does she really see this as a caring thing to do to you? Does she not see the never ending anxiety this "friendship" brings? I sometimes think about what I would do if my W decided to work on our M (that's my dream!) and decided to keep contact with the OP. Somehow it just doesn't seem respectful or really committing to work on the M. It seems like keeping the reserves on hand, just in case. I certainly could be wrong, it's happened before! What do others here think? You might want to check Wedge's thread as he has been dealing with this same issue.
