We spent all day together and I hope we are in a better place. It started out rocky and looked like it took a turn for the worse but we talked for a few hours and I think we came to an understanding. Maybe I caved on too much stuff but I felt that was the only way she was going to give me a chance and I think giving her some power...some hope that she could continue to have fun and be with her friends made her happy. I found out the entire story and that it was only physical once though she was certainly in the middle of an EA (and still may be)...I think I am willing to work with the EA and can deal with that a little better. At least she feels happy with me right now and says she is happy and wants me to be in her circle of friends. She says she just wants to remain friends with the OM...and understands it cannot be more than that. She stated she definitely still wants to be married to me and never wanted to leave me...which is a good thing. Just was pissed I backed her into a corner and started making demands and putting restrictions on her. Some part of me still feels like I want to do that but I feel that approach was really pushing her away and was going to make it very difficult to continue our lives together. I am hoping this approach will be better and will give us the opportunity to work with one another and see if we can't make our relationship better. We are still going to do MC. I just want the best opportunity to succeed in that and show her that I am flexible and give her some respect.

Now the question is do I go back hardcore into PI mode and make sure she is telling me the truth or do I just roll with it awhile and hope MC and reading DB helps. Just take what she is saying for the truth? I do definitely still have some trust issues. One part of me feels like I want to go into PI and verify she is being honest with me another part of me does not want more surprises/revalations and just wants her to remain calm and we can work on us even if she is not being honest about everything.

"Friendship is like peeing your pants: everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth."