My Story - Looking for help and support

[SRTogacihC]

I can't wait to get the book...I need something to help guide me. Right now I am doing what comes natural which in a lot of cases is probably the opposite of what I should be doing. Reading these forums has helped a lot and at least I am no longer in the smothering stage.

I do feel she is very angry with me for the snooping and forcing the end of the A...it was just hard for me to act any other way once I sensed something was going on...

I do know I need to stop trying to be the PI...if she wants the A to continue she will find a way...and I need to accept that and just let her make her own choices. It is just so hard to let go and leave things to chance. I want to be "Mr Fix It"...just my natural instinct.

This is why I am looking for advice...I want her back...but I don't want her to feel I forced her back...I want her to want to come back and reopen her heart to me.

Well the book is on the way and I will devour that quickly...and we start MC next week which hopefully will be positive.

I do acknowledge that 50% of the mess I find my marriage in is my fault. Like you said she just hammered in the last nail. I realize the main thing I need to do is focus on me.