Hello and welcome. First thing's first, sorry you have to be on this board.
I'm not much of the advice giver like the bright people in this board. Read that book that you ordered and understand it, it would make dealing with your current situation a little easier. Easier in a way that you'll get past some of the things that a betrayed spouse will always overlook in trying to save/salvage the marriage or relationship.
I'm on the verge of maybe succeeding in fixing what I broke (I had part in it), my W was the one who hit it with a hammer. One thing I had to do that was the hardest is stopping snooping. I still have the software in all our computers but I have not looked at it since I started DBing. I don't know if I ever will, I will probably just let it sit in the background and have my normal daily use of the computers purge it out of the buffer. *sigh*
Good luck and keep posting, it helps to vent out what's eating you inside.
