Yesterday I think we had a pretty good evening. We sat on the front lawn and played with my son...laughed a little...talked about non-serious issues.
But...I could see she was very depressed. She had him on her mind. I just hope she has the strength to break free. I really think she is trying. She has included me in all of her upcoming social events...I do believe she wants our marriage to continue.
Last night after she went to bed I deleted all digital pictures of him I could find on our computer. They were in the same group of friends for awhile and she takes a lot of pics so I never found it unusual she had all the pics...as she has a lot of pics of all her friends. I do not know if this was the right thing to do but I had noticed she had opened one or two of his pics that day and I was feeling a bit jealous and hurt so I just started deleting. He has to be out of our life if our marriage is ever to recover. Should I have just allowed the A to continue and let it die a natural death? Maybe just worked on myself in the mean time and hoped she came back on her own? I don't know how the heck I would have dealt with that scenario...
What is the best way for me to help her deal with the withdrawal that she is feeling? I did a good job at keeping the mood light yesterday and I am just trying to be positive and patient. Anything else I can do?
This is such a struggle...I pray we can come out of this with a stronger marriage in the end.
"Friendship is like peeing your pants: everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth."
