Quote: How sad that an anointed man of God could stand there this morning delivering a message so obviously for you that came straight from the Throne and you still don't get it.
You are so blind, so deceived. Yes the enemy is at work here but you do much to deceive yourself. I know what that's like because I did the same thing during my MLC.
How sad that you think Kevin can be so lost that God can't reach him. You are called to stand. You may very well be the ONE PERSON that God wants to stand in the gap between heaven and hell and claim Kevin's salvation is imminent. The unbelieving spouse is sanctified (MADE HOLY) by the believing spouse. IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO STAND ON BEHALF OF YOUR HUSBAND.
Get your ass off your pity pot.
One person can make a difference.
Why were you called to make this very difficult stand?
I don't know.
But I have heard that God does not call those who are qualified.
He qualifies those He calls.
He called you to stand for your marriage and for the saving of your husbands soul.
Quote: I like a lot of that in your last post, Emily. Tell you what ... if you can go a month without talking to him or writing to us about how much you miss him, I'll send you $50. How about that?
I could probably manage a month of telling him to "piss off" (hopefully in a nicer way than that though. Starting today I have had zero contact. Day 1 almost over . . LOL)
BUT I KNOW I couldn't do it without coming here and venting that I miss him. Sorry . . . I can't take that deal . . because I already know I'll lose!
Yes Amy I did pay A LOT of attention to that last post.
What you said about me possibly being his ONLY linking factor . . . shook me A LOT.
This to be exact (I edited)
Quote: How sad that you think Kevin can be so lost that God can't reach him.
You are called to stand.
You may very well be the ONE PERSON that God wants to stand in the gap between heaven and hell and claim Kevin's salvation is imminent.
The unbelieving spouse is sanctified (MADE HOLY) by the believing spouse.
IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO STAND ON BEHALF OF YOUR HUSBAND.
That's why I said that I wouldn't file nor would I sign anything. . . I would "keep my options open"
BUT let's face it . . . what I have been doing isn't working.
It's time to try a different way.
My only problem Amy, RB, Frank, and even Ali . . if you can answer is this:
If he is in this R with Cassie . . . then what's to say that I will not just be standing in vain.
I really feel that he is trying to balance us both.
That's seems to be the trick for him.
When asked to choose between us . . . he chooses her.
Well if that's the case then so be it.
But I want to know so that I can pick up my peices and move on.
I am more than willing to face a NO CONTACT of a month or two . . if it will help. If I will be loving him from this distance. . . . and he is just moving on because "I don't love him anymore and refuse to talk to him" then what?
Also . . . what do I do if he calls? Just tell him I can't talk . . . or do I tell him I won't talk?
Quote: My only problem Amy, RB, Frank, and even Ali . . if you can answer is this:
If he is in this R with Cassie . . . then what's to say that I will not just be standing in vain Emily, you must be standing, walking, by faith alone. You have got to feed your faith and not your fear from this minute on. Emily, I have just spent the most blessed 3 hours with my husband. I didn't expect it and I sure didn't deserve it but you know what, I BELIEVED FOR IT. I never knew when I'd spend time with him, never knew when we might talk...I just believed. You have got to to reach that point. It is TIME for you to grow now. Not GO NOW. This is where the rubber meets the road Emily. This will be the single most important decision you ever make; to turn your back on what the world and its circumstances show you (like that he's choosing Cassie) and to walk by faith believing in that which you do not see, but God says He will restore. . I really feel that he is trying to balance us both. That's seems to be the trick for him. When asked to choose between us . . . he chooses her. Well if that's the case then so be it. But I want to know so that I can pick up my peices and move on. You're going to pick up the pieces but you are going to have to step out of the boat on nothing but faith, Emily. God wants to see if you will trust Him and believe Him in spite of the storm. It's time to stop being a baby Christian. You're in a spiritual battle for your family. Your battle is not against flesh and blood (Cassie) it is against things you can't see. Your weapon is the Word of God. It's in your hand, like David held that slingshot. Are you going to use this weapon and take the giant down or drop it and run? I am more than willing to face a NO CONTACT of a month or two . . if it will help. If I will be loving him from this distance. . . . and he is just moving on because "I don't love him anymore and refuse to talk to him" then what?
Quote: BUT I KNOW I couldn't do it without coming here and venting that I miss him. Sorry . . . I can't take that deal . . because I already know I'll lose!
Ah, but that's the thing, isn't it? You can't stop yourself from feeling anxious moments when you miss him and hurt. What you can do in those moments is to consciously make the decision to set aside that feeling and rejoice in the blessings that God has given you, and to use that moment to pray for Kevin (and even Cassie).
On the other hand, if you make the decide to feel sorry for yourself and wallow in self-oity, you've taken a step backward and reinforced your status as a victim.
You have the power to claim each and every moment as a victory for Christ in your life.
Quote: If he is in this R with Cassie . . . then what's to say that I will not just be standing in vain.
You are called to be faithful to your God, Emily. That's all you can do ... the outcome is up to Him.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
Happy Labor Day all! Hope you all enjoy the hell out of it!
I thought this was funny . . .
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Mentally Stable?
Jim and Edna were both patients in a mental hospital. One day while they were walking past the hospital swimming pool, Jim suddenly jumped into the deep end. He sank to the bottom of the pool and stayed there. Edna promptly jumped in to save him. She swam to the bottom and pulled Jim out When the director of Nursing became aware of Edna's heroic act, she considered her to be mentally stable. When she went to tell Edna the news, she said, "Edna, I have good news and bad news. The good news is you're being discharged; since you were able to rationally respond to a crisis by jumping in and saving the life of another patient, I have concluded that your act displays sound mindedness. The bad news is that Jim, the patient you saved, hanged himself in his bathroom with the belt to his robe right after you saved him. I am sorry, but he's dead." Edna replied, "He didn't hang himself, I put him there to dry. How soon can I go home?"
Nothing new to report . . . SSDD! LOL! I understand what you all are saying. I just don't get the point of standing when the outcome is so bleak. I know it could change . . . but I'm not so sure I'd want it to. I'm not so sure he could ever redeem himself. Sure it's nice to see him every great once in a while and so forth. But jeesh . . . . I think it would take a lot of work on his behalf to right the wrong and prove himself stable enough for me to love. I just don't forsee him EVER doing ANY of it. I don't think even God could motivate Kevin. I don't know . . .
Quote: Emily, you must be standing, walking, by faith alone. You have got to feed your faith and not your fear from this minute on. Emily, I have just spent the most blessed 3 hours with my husband
I know it Amy. The other night when my H was here . . . it was the BEST. He was wonderful . . . I was sweet and we had so much fun. Not even a week later he jets off into the sunset with Cassie again. WTH??
What's the point in taking the crumbs he throws and eating them up . . . and stand here like a stupid dog hoping for another scrap of it. . . . . I could live a VERY full life without him I could do it without waiting for crumbs from him. He's gone . . . I'm willing to face that head on.
So you are just going to throw your husband to the wolves then? Why should I help him anymore? After everything he's done . . . he doesn't deserve a second glance. He's done this to himself . . . I will NOT be held responsible for his actions
Emily, if you won't stand for him who the hell will? He chooses her so let her do it.
