Wow, NNP. That is a great question. Because your courage and purpose in life, all the goodies will come once you stake out what matters to you most.
I am a true believer that you can have it all, though. And sometimes in the midst of that journey, it looks like you could lose it all to have it all. But if you have your values straight - the things that are the baseline core of your being - then everything turns out all right because you never lose that if you are true to yourself. For me it is honesty, integrity, unconditional love, profound relatedness, full self-expression (for all), authenticity. A few more things, probably, are core. These are things I will not live without. If you commit to your values, and step firmly into that, all else will be revealed and what doesn't fit will fall away. Fortunately my H is committed to these things too, and has said so, so it is a way that I can relate to him, by reminding him of who he is, what he is committed to also, when he has temporarily forgotten (such as now, in his MLC behaviors). If you can identify what those things are that matter to you most, then as you step closer to that each day, your life will become clearer and the steps you take will be easier. For me the love part helps most. Can I love H no matter what we do? And even more important, can I love myself, no matter what?
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
