I don't think I can help you too much because it's not my sitch as you know. I do hope that this might help:
Last week on Oprah she had a 1 hr. show on your sitch. She had about 3 couples where they did the same as your wife. She also had a shrink on with them. I didn't watch b/c it didn't pertain to me.
But what about going on Oprah.com and see if she has it on her site still or contact the show and see if you can purchase a copy of the tape.
I'm not gay, but it seems that your w needs that closeness. I hate to say it, but if my H left for another man; I think that I would move on. I'm not anti-gay, but your sitch is a hard one. I don't mean any hard feelings to anyone...but is hard to believe that she denies being gay. I am so sorry...really I am...but to think of ML to another woman is so distasteful, there is no way, no matter how bad my marriage was...it wouldn't send me into the arms of a woman. Could it be that she's bi-sexual?
Again, I do apologize if anyone is offended by what I feel. I just wanted to let you know that I didn't forget about you, Whatisis.
I just don't know how the mental mechanics run in non- heterosexual R. I've got to get back to Osu, whatisis, join us when you can!!!
