Thanks Helinka, everything you've said is right! I've heard everything you mentioned. Yes, sometimes I think "Wow, you've not only turned her off M, you've turned her off men!" I know I'm really down when I start to hear that one in my head. STOP! I've said before, the WAS mentality would be so fascinating to study if it wasn't so damn hurtful! My W says the same thing as your SO, "I'm staying only for the kids". So Helinka I guess we just count ourselves among the lucky ones and keep on DBing till we drop. Our S's are still here. A woman friend of mine, who knows the sitch, looked at some recent family photos I showed her and remarked "My God, what is this woman thinking!" That about says it all.
