Thanks Wonka for the insight. I am NOT anti-lesbian,,, but I AM anti-affair, anti-divorce and anti- this particular - OW.
I had to laugh about the dopamine and the crack, but I think METH is more appropriate. My W lost so much weight and had such mood swings I even asked her if she was doing drugs. You know how that went over.
I know there is nothing I can do about the A. My MIL believes different, but I have attempted to detach.