Is your S's OM a W? Let's talk

[seporateddadof2]

This twist to the sitch is being way over thought. Back to basics. any focus on OM or OW is BAD. It will only push the WAS away and into the arms of OP. 2nd OP is not to blame for your sitch and you cant do anything about OP or your WAS actions. Put time and energy where it belongs, on your self. Focus on the things you can do something about. Like how you react to stimuli, 180s GAL. Talking to WAS about same sex A or interests isnt helping your sitch at all. If your WAS is completely infatuated or just curious it doesnt matter. It is still the same grass is greener saga.

Try to think about why your WAS is attracted to the OP as a Person. It has nothing to do with plumbing I promise.
Is it because the OP listens and validates?
Is it because the OP complements and gives lots of pos attention? What needs are OP meeting for your WAS that you wernt meeting? Those are the Q to be asking.