I say "I'm done" because I cannot stay impartial on this any longer. This is a topic I cannot maintain my objectivity on....simply due to my H deceiving me as he did for years and my discovery of that deception back in Feb. I know the feeling of betrayal and I know the overpowering desire to know the truth too.
IMPO without full disclosure to your W, without giving her all the facts....you are doing the same thing my H did, you are continuing to deceive and allow her to live a lie. I understand you are going off of your C's advice, but I admit....I'm looking at this from your W's side of the fence.
So, IMPO anything you believe you are building, without full disclosure to your W....is false.
Now, OTOH...."IF" you were making full disclosure to your W and she said "stop, I don't want to hear anymore!" that would be something completely different. What I'm hearing though is that she is left out of that decision. Hopefully I'm wrong....but regardless I've found I cannot maintain my objectivity....so I'm bowing out of this thread.
