A big part of our reality is in how we percieve it, in what we choose to focus on.
A movie was recommended to me quite some time ago called "What the Bleep do We Know!?".....with your knowledge on physics, I was wondering if you'd seen it and if so what you thought about it? I saw it mentioned again on the boards yesterday and I thought it must be something I'm supposed to see if it's come across my path twice, so I ordered it from Amazon. If you haven't seen it or heard of it, you're probably wondering how it ties into the quote above, but from what I've heard about it, the movie talks specifically to the idea of creating our own futures based on what we think....and supposedly backed up with science. Really interesting.
When I talk about OW, invarialby the feelings and memories resurface. So I choose not to think about her anymore (again with the above caveat). Maybe this is not the right way to do it, but it is how I am choosing to do it now
This is sort of the approach I've taken with my M altogther, lol. It's working really well for me, seriously.
I still feel that slight pull when, as MrsNOPs describes with NOPkins, I see the obvious responses by females around me.
I feel this too Chrome. Although I respect your decision not to discuss this on the boards right now, after some healing occurs, I hope that you will post more about it and how you are progressing with it. With such serious doubts that my M will ever be fulfilling for me again (because of the repercussions of the A), I find myself thinking quite a bit about Rs with other people....which is what got me into this mess to begin with. I think that faith is ultimately the only thing that can carry me through.....not faith in the religious sense of the word, but maybe you know what I mean.
So this is not a question of picking up the pieces and trying to put them back together, it is a question of building something new. Maybe that is good thing.
I'm finding so many similarities today Chrome. In my situation, I think we could build something new....it's getting H to realize he wants something new that seems to be causing me distress. Is that the case for you as well?
I figure that being there every step of the way for our home, the home we intend to live in for the rest of our lives, is an important statement about my intention to stay with her and be a partner with her.
Same here. We are looking at building a house and it seems to reassure H a great deal to know that I plan to be with him long enough to build a house
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
