Have you read Deida? You listen to your W words to much. JMHO.
Do you know that a people who dont want to want actively prevent others from generating warm fuzzies, by ... I hate to say lying... dissembling? If you tell someone you dont want (xyz), then they would only do it because 'they really wanted tooo....' or some such thought process along those lines. Of course if they dont like chocolate, then maybe carrot cake, or whatever ...that shows attention to detail.
Chromo, Thats way to much responsibility for us. Do you and your W have any agreements about limits on spending money without approval? Is the trip absoulutely not a financial burden?
Yes its very alpha, if its not immature (financially unsound) or disrespectful (previous agreement buster).
