As an HDW, I find that it's often (ok, most of the time) NOT my H's behavior that gets my motor runnin but his presence and physical characteristics. And just the fact that I love him. He is very manly in his demeanor and mannerisms. He is physically strong and has a long stride when he walks. He is not 'soft' to touch in any way and he's not a snuggly bunny of a dude.
So despite the fact that his personality can be weak, he does not come across as a weak person, usually. THANK GOODNESS.
Cobra, your question is a good one but not one that I really know how to answer. So far in my marriage I have not placed myself in the Mother Role and I can't even wrap my mind around how to do it. I can envision really easily what I'd do if my child found herself unable to make a decision because she was afraid to disappoint but I can't figure out how to translate that into man/wife without the whole thing going awry.
