Are you sure your H’s indecision is nothing more than simply being stuck in his FOO? Wasn’t he the people please as a child, always trying to appease everyone else, always worrying when the next fight would erupt? Kids in these households can become limp rag personalities, completely losing themselves to please others, all as a way to avoid confrontation. This is what you H sounds like to me. That is not the same as a follower or a weak alpha, but more a traumatized child.
Underneath, you see signs hat he is in fact all male and really does not like being led. He just isn’t comfortable being the one to lead. Leading can get you in trouble, especially if every choice you make is criticized. So better for him to know with certainty what you want, allowing his stress to go away, and then he can decide if your choice is acceptable to him or not. I’m betting the each time he says "How come you're never in the mood for pizza?" he is really not in agreement with your choice, but cannot muster up the courage to say otherwise. He just lets it out in a passive aggressive afterthought.
If this were your child struggling with this issue, how would you help him through his fear?
