Well, I guess I should have been more specific so that you didn't have to write all that out to me (3 times, LOL).

I am never the one driving--I hate driving. Also, I do not like to eat out so I'm never the one bringing up where to eat. He brings it up thusly:
MrH: Where should I go to eat?
HP: What sounds good to you?
MrH: Don't start that. Just tell me where to go.
HP: Fine. How about Burger King or Subway?
MrH: What do *you* want?
HP: Either one sounds fine to me, does one or the other sound better to you?
MrH: Just tell me where *you* want to eat.
HP: Subway
MrH: Fine.
(family goes to subway) Hour later, he will likely say something like "How come you're never in the mood for pizza?"
Aaaaaaaaaggggggghhhhh!

Now, take this example and apply it from everything to where we should grocery shop to what we should have for dinner to what position we shall have sex in that night. He simply cannot make a decision, so afraid is he of not choosing the thing that (he thinks) I already have in mind.

The problem, of course, is that I am a type 7 and rarely have a certain thing in mind and am quite naturally flexible. If he chooses something I don't like, I'll usually go along with it and never say anything about it.

I am not really the benevolent general because I'll usually ask his preference but if he doesn't cough one up I just go ahead and do whatever I feel like. I don't really have that desire to make him happy by choosing pizza every time, say.
Nor do I feel anxiety over being the decision maker. It annoys me, that's all. If I don't make the decision one won't get made. There have been times when I refused to be the Dinner Decider and he would eventually pull the car over, thoroughly frustrated and disgusted that I won't tell him where to go, and yet completely unable to choose a place himself. I just sit there, amused.

Not sure what that makes me but I'm sure you'll come up with a suitable analogy. LOL

P.S. back to the original topic......my mind was drifting in church yesterday and I found myself reacting on a physical level to the lector simply because he has an unbelievably deep voice. Total geek otherwise. But his voice could melt ya. He didn't LOOK like an Alpha Male--more skinny subservient dude--but he sounded like one.