Quote: Girl what the hell you talkin about. You totally lost me on that analogy. Write me again in normal language cause I am interested in what you, a fellow HD female 7, has to say.
LOL- It was a lame analogy.
Let me go to your own example of anti-Alphaness- your H's lack of decisiveness regarding whether he wants Burger King of Subway. Think about it this way. The fact that you are asking him to make a decision about the matter means that you are already driving the car and just trying to determine what his preferences might be regarding destination. Other examples of this would be asking him what color he thinks you should paint the living room or when he thinks you should take your family vacation or how much you should be putting aside for the kids college education. Being concerned about someone's preferences is oftentimes more the task of the leader rather than the follower. You can kid yourself into thinking that you are being subservient to somebody else's wishes when really you are being the benevolent General trying to keep the troops happy. Behind this behavior is the anxiety that if you don't take action nothing will get done. That's why I advise that you should practice not making any plans or trying to solve any problems. You really aren't that important. The world won't come to a crashing halt. Remember your Kafka.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
