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So you didnt actually manage to assume the leadership postion did you. Therefore he does not want you there.




Freakin brilliant. Thank you!

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Didnt you chose him because you trusted him? You felt safe with him?





Yes. I also chose him because he had big pecs and he wore tight t-shirts.
However, the fact remains that I liked the fact that he was a bit of a lapdog and willing to let me take charge. Perhaps I have abandonment issues and was looking for a man who was a "sure thing" or something, I don't know.

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So do you let him know that it drives you insane? Are you radically honest.



What, are you kiddin. Of course. I don't hold it in, nor do I get angry. I calmly say it the same nearly every time: "I don't feel like deciding--would you just do it?" This sets off a state of panic inside him. Don't ask me why, fee fi FOO fum, I have no idea. Eventually he throws these decisions back on me so many times that I make the decision and then later on he'll say, Man I really wish we had gone for pizza. !!!!!
(HD, is this a Six thing?)
Even as frequently as he does it, it doesn't make me mad. I am used to it and just roll with it, although it gets ollllllllld, as you can imagine.

Now to answer your question. Possessive and sexually aggressive is okay in my book, but jealousy has never done anything for me whatsoever. In fact, I think it makes a person look like an imbecile and is a complete turn off for me.
The flip side, indifference or arrogance, as you described it would have snuffed out any love/desire in me in much the same way.

Jenny,
Girl what the hell you talkin about. You totally lost me on that analogy. Write me again in normal language cause I am interested in what you, a fellow HD female 7, has to say.

HP