HP- Think about it this way. The more you are actually willing to give up control the easier it will be to state your preferences or needs. This is a rather lame-*ss analogy but think about how easy it was to make a list of things you wanted from Santa when you were a kid. Why don't you feel free to make a similar list of sexual preferences or wants for your husband? I mean there is nothing wrong with wanting Barbie's Dream House even if you might not get it if you ask for the Easy-Bake Oven too. I am certain that I am not making myself clear but if you want your H to play Santa then you have to stop playing Santa yourself even though it might kind of make you want to puke to see yourself in the role of the good little girl. Face facts, you got a stocking that needs filling on a regular basis.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
