Quote: He has submitted a property settlement offer but my lawyer says that I am entitled to more than he offered. Lawyer says that I am entitled to spousal support and more child support. I am afraid if I agree to try for more money and spousal support I will ruin any chance of reconciliation. If I don't ask for more, I may not be able to keep the home that our sons grew up in and our youngest wants to live in until he graduates.
THIS is business, nothing more. You should ask for (and receive) all that you are entitled to. You've been on this board long enough to know that giving in to settlement demands, making wild promises, and so on does NOT bring a WAS back. Look out for number 1, YOU and don't worry about STBXH. If he has a "come to Jesus" moment and slaps his forehead and says "WTH was I thinking"... then you can figure out what you want to do.
Sorry to hear about your sitch, but I really think there are very few couples that get back together once they separate. I know in my sitch, once she made the decision to move out, she was GONE! Kept telling me though that "we can date, we can figure out if we can put US back together"...etc. Was sleeping w/ OM (EA) within 3 days! Told the kids less than a week later she was going to be dating him (he was a family friend and a coworker of mine!) The 4 of them then went out together 11 days after she moved out! And she STILL says that wasn't wrong "b/c they knew him!" Of course that R blew up in less than 3 months!
Now she's on her 2nd BF this summer that she's involved the kids in and doesn't take the time to date these guys for a while before introducing them to the kids...
So, take care of you, the boys and don't expect anything from H. Sorry.
