I have been wondering if anyone on this board thinks I have a chance in the world of getting back with H. We have been separated for almost 14 months. H had told me 1 1/2 years after telling me that he didn't want to be married anymore. H filed at the end of January. He spent some time with me in July, kissing me and telling me he missed me and I still had that effect on him. Only to tell me later in the week that he was sorry he hurt me and that he still wanted a divorce. About a month later he began dating a friend of ours who he had dated a couple of times in high school. I have stopped all contact with him except when we are at one of our son's football games. H has been dating OW for about a month and brings her to our other S's high school football games but does not bring her to older S's college games. I still love him and would love to put our marriage back together. Does anyone on this board think that I have a chance in the world to accomplish getting back with him? H screamed at me on the phone that he does not love me anymore. Our D should be final soon. He has submitted a property settlement offer but my lawyer says that I am entitled to more than he offered. Lawyer says that I am entitled to spousal support and more child support. I am afraid if I agree to try for more money and spousal support I will ruin any chance of reconciliation. If I don't ask for more, I may not be able to keep the home that our sons grew up in and our youngest wants to live in until he graduates.
H is 44, I am 51. sons 19 and 17. M almost 20 years. I have a son 31 from a previous marriage.
Should I just give up?
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
