Hi Karen,
Thanks It made me feel better to read your kind words. I half expected to find a get a load of 2X4's off people here. I just feel so *confused* like maybe this is me - it just doesn't feel like it is me.

I read yesterday on MSN that the worst age for your kids to be when you D is between 6 and 9 Mine are 7 and 5.

You are right though, it is fear of the unknown that often stops us from doing what we have to.

I finally phoned a C today, so I hope this will help. Unfortunately my H's personality is Jekyll and Hyde. By day he is Dr Jekyll and smooth talking mild mannered by night (after several beers) he is Mr Hyde. I believe he does not even know himself what he is like when he is in this mode and that's what worries me in a way about counselling. Will the C know how he is or will he think I am overreacting.

I will of course say that H is an alcoholic. Should I say this upfront before we even go to the assessment session?

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong