Thanks GH and Mama, I am happy with the outcome of all this DBing with the help from an unexpected ally (OMW). I am still cautious and the occassional nagging thought of a relapse on W's part is there. W thanked me for being now that's she's the one hurting from her actions. I told her that I am here 100% for her support even if I am one of the victims of her selfish actions.