I took S8 inside the house and he went in his room to watch TV. I told him that I would be outside if he needed me, that I would just sit out to make sure mom’s OK. He understood and watched TV until he fell asleep. I sat in the front seat thinking about the events of the night and the OMW’s call. So I made up my mind and went inside the house and wrote an email to OMW, she left me her email address in the voicemail. I told her to call me if she wanted to and that I apologize for not answering earlier because I was driving. OMW’s wife replied the next day, more on that later.
So, I went back out and grabbed me a beer, sat on a stool by the front door and thought more about our situation. After a few minutes, I got back in the car, sat on the front seat and pondered about life some more. All this time, W’s phone kept buzzing, unread text messages, unacknowledged phone calls, or voicemail. I got tired of listening to it so I looked for the blasted phone and found it on the floor. I looked at it, had some text messages, so I said to myself, “screw this, I’m reading everything”. My W and OM did communicate via text during the day and the night, and there was one message where OM said “You’re a great wife and girlfriend”. I did not like that, not one bit at all. I figured that in the morning when my W wakes up, this TALK will be IT. I made a few more trips to the fridge and sat back out on the stool and just prayed that whatever I do in the morning I hope I don’t regret. A couple of hours later, I got tired, got back on the front seat and fell asleep also, I woke up in the morning and it was light outside already, I tried to wake W up and she did. A little disoriented but able to get up and walk on her own. First thing she asked was how she got home, when, and who helped her. I told her how, who, and when and then we got inside and we both laid on the bed and slept some more.
I woke up a couple of hours later a little refreshed and she woke up too, she asked again how she got home and how I found her and if she was able to bring home whatever she had with her. I told her the same thing I said when she first woke up and told her about OMW’s call. She said “Oh no!” I then got up and prepared breakfast, she stayed in bed until it was time to eat. After breakfast, I told her about her phone buzzing, how I read the text messages and how I felt about OM telling her how great a wife and girlfriend she is.
This is when she started to tell me the whole story of how she was trying to end the R with OM. That text message OM sent was a sarcastic remark because he wanted to see her that Friday night but she cancelled on him thinking the R will never end if she saw him again. She saw OM on Thursday at lunch to tell him that she wanted to stop but he wanted to see her again Friday night to “talk”. My W told OM that she was doing a family thing that’s why she cancelled, and then later that night texted OM and told him she was at happy hour with coworkers. This made him even more furious, he replied and she called him. Unfortunately for him, the OMW told me in her email that they were kind of in the middle of doing the nasty when my W called (GASP!). That was the last straw for OMW, she used HIS phone to call me, and send a text message to my W to leave her H alone. She used the same phone to call me a few more times that night while I was driving home. She never did call me but we exchanged a couple of emails and there I mentioned that there are discrepancies between her husband’s side of the story and what my W is telling me. We both agreed that we’re not going into the details of the discrepancy because as she said “It’s over, and I will make sure of it, that I need to find a way to control my wife on my end”. OMW said she’ll believe what her husband said and that I’m sure I will believe my wife too. One big discrepancy I was referring to was that OM is portraying my W as the one who was pursuing him, emailing, texting, and calling. My W did not know the details of OMW’s email yet. She had an appointment at 10:45 that morning so she left the house after breakfast. She had texted the OM after breakfast when she was reviewing her text messages, she had texted him to leave her alone and that it was over. She showed me the text message that she sent just to let me know that she’s serious about what she was saying.
My W left for her appointment, she was hung over and confused as to what she’s done. She called me after her appointment and said she’s done and on her way home. She went to eat before leaving the place and thought about what had happened, the OMW’s call, the OM and what I know. OM texted her later that morning while she was eating, she replied, he replied, she replied again and the OM got angry at her comments. OM got angry at her and told her mean things like he always does (she said). From our recent conversations, I found out that OM likes to say mean things to her then come back with words that seem to reel her back in like nothing happened. W told me she realized what he was doing but she just couldn’t break off his grip on her with his “words”.
