Sounds positive Wedge. The other thing to do with obsessive thoughts is to laugh them off and forget them, don't get down on yourself. You're human and in a tough situation! You reacted, end of story (and you will again!)I also think your C is on to something good. Any C worth his/her salt is not going to tell you and your W what you must do. His/her job is to help clarify what you want to do and help you guys devise a plan to get there. Telling her to dump contact with OM would be really pointless but to discuss how to create closeness in your R might make some sense. IT also gives you space to say how much more secure and loved you would feel if OM were out of the picture. She ultimately will decide one way or the other, not you or the C. I hope she goes for it. Personally, I went for the ballroom dance lessons to create closeness. What the heck! Keep us posted.
