Wedge, Sadly we all live in situations where the slightest action of the S sets us into an obsessive thought pattern that is hard to resist. I think you've hit the nail on the head though. She thinks you are disappointed in her not her action of abandoning you to the TV. She probably thinks she's doing well and you've torpedoed it (in her mind anyway)! Leaving the ring could be her way of striking back at you. I would suggest you try and clarify with her what you meant by your comment and attempt to validate things you like about what she's doing for the R, hopefully there are some! Also probably learning that you are seeing a counsellor has had an impact on her too. So that's my 2cents, hope it helps. Keep us posted.
