First thing for you to do, tell your family. Let them help you. You have done NOTHING to be ashamed of, yet I know all too well...that feeling of shame you are experiencing. Just remember you have nothing to be ashamed of, your H on the other hand...has TONS to be ashamed of.
It will take courage for you to tell your family what's going on, but I'm confident...they won't want you to live this way, they will want to help you. Another avenue for you to look at are your local churche's and United Way agencies. The United Way (just look them up in your local phone book) can give you guidance...for programs that can help you find a place to live if you need to, help get you employment if you need....and counseling (by the way IC is individual counselor).
The toughest part of this is going to be for you to screw up the courage to start that ball in motion to get out of this situation. You can do this though, I know you can. Remember this isn't just for you, you have three children to think of as well....and you don't want them learning that the way their father behaves in this marriage is what is acceptable behavior within a marriage right?
Tell you what, if you need some additional support feel free to e-mail me anitam@nordam.com I'll be happy to lend that moral support for you when you need it.
